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 ====== PBH220H: Branching from the Head to the Heart ======
+===== Ignorant or in denial? =====
   * http://www.unmaskingchoice.ca/blog/2013/10/07/ignorant-or-denial
-  * There's a difference between ignorance and denial
+    * There's a difference between **ignorance** of the truth and **denial** of the truth.
-  * Questions that you can ask when you find the intellectual/head arguments are coming up against a wall of denial
+      * When people are in denial about abortion, it's very often because of some hidden wound, especially an experience with abortion or some other trauma. That denial is a reaction of the //heart//, and it necessitates a fundamentally different response from us as pro-life advocates. Heart conversations require us to tailor our approach to allow us to address the hurt and pain that these people have experienced that prevent them from accepting the truth about abortion.
-  * Strategies for dialoguing compassionately and sensitively with strangers about sensitive areas of personal history
+      * Example: Testimony - [[https://www.facebook.com/canadiancbr/videos/505970816882818/|CCBR Video: "4 of my friends have had abortions"]]
-    * Ways to covertly make them aware of help, if they might resist a direct offer
+===== Seek to understand =====
-  * [[http://www.unmaskingchoice.ca/blog/2014/02/04/strong-minds-tender-hearts|Strong Minds, Tender Hearts]]
+    -  Questions that you can ask when you find the intellectual/head arguments are coming up against a wall of denial:
-  * 10min example for Discussion: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8nhXQS5UUGQ#t=54min (from 54 min onwards, Crowder wins on logic but clearly doesn't win the heart and doesn't transition from the head to the heart effectively)
+        - Head Q's = //what// someone believes, vs. heart Q's = //why// someone believes what they believe [[https://www.endthekilling.ca/blog/2019/06/14/reaching-the-person-beyond-the-argument|Reaching the person behind the argument]]
+         - **"Do you know someone who's had an abortion?"** Testimony: [[https://www.facebook.com/217971845050/videos/856248558126274/|CCBR video - His sister had an abortion]]
+         - **What made you decide to be pro-choice?"** Testimony: [[https://www.endthekilling.ca/blog/2018/03/28/speaking-from-the-heart/]]
+         - **Where does your passion come from?**
+         - What makes this issue important to you?
+         - How did you come to be pro-choice [or pro-life]?
+         - How have conversations about abortion gone for you in the past?
+         - Have you always had this view or has it changed for you over time? If it’s changed, how did that change of view happen?
+         - When in life did you first learn about abortion? What did you think about it then?
+         - What do you think someone like me thinks about people who've had abortions?
-  - Seek to understand
+> “Asking questions from genuine interest builds connection. Connection builds trust. And trust is the bridge that can bear the weight of truth.” - //Mary Schaller & John Crilly, "The 9 Arts of Spiritual Conversations"//
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-  - Love
-    - {{youtube>WvnFfdZcwKo?medium}}
-    - {{youtube>6LmE0WKLDFw?medium}}
-  - Inspire/impart courage
-    - {{youtube>9rYRKZfunJA?medium}}
-    - {{youtube>Ju-q4OnBtNU?medium}}
-    - {{youtube>DBL6fSNghDk?medium}}
-FIXME 2020 notes from Maria McCann: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CE1TTpfbiLJf4fLqTMWk0lVUk-o8jOtKoJjI3GWbgaE/edit?usp=drivesdk
+===== Love =====
+    - Strategies for dialoguing compassionately and sensitively with strangers about sensitive areas of personal history
+        * Ways to covertly make them aware of help, if they might resist a direct offer
+     - What about sexual assault?
+       - Anna Thomson: “If we look at the case of sexual assault, we know there are three parties involved. We have the guilty man, who should be punished (do we agree?) And then we have the innocent woman who has been victimized. So she deserves support (we agree?) Now we have the child, are they innocent or guilty? (Innocent) Okay, so now we have a choice to make. We can either offer support and create another survivor, or we can offer abortion and create a second victim. **Don't you think we should be making more survivors, not more victims?”**
+     - Speaking with survivors of sexual assault
+      - {{youtube>WvnFfdZcwKo?medium}}
+    - Speaking with those whose loved ones have had abortions:
+      - {{youtube>KusOin___a4?medium}}
+    - Is it loving to show AVP?
+      - {{youtube>6LmE0WKLDFw?medium}}
+    - **"What do you think someone like //me// thinks about women who've had abortions?"**
+      - Communicate help available after abortion, share stories e.g. Angelina's story, etc.
+      - Communicate empathy
+        - {{youtube>1Evwgu369Jw?medium}}
+    - "If I had known you when you were pregnant and considering abortion, is there anything I could have done to help you make a different choice?"
+    - "Do you think that if you'd had more support, you could have carried to term?
+    - - Communicate care through body language - open posture, smiling when appropriate (especially when initially greeting people), showing concern/mirroring pain when appropriate, angle your sign so it's not a physical barrier between you and person (and so more views!) etc.
+Example: {{:utsfl:classroom:seminars:tikvah.jpg?400|}}
-FIXME **1.5h talk from CCBR (Notes from Oriyana Hrycyshyn)** -- condense this so other individuals can use it/run it as a workshop; and may need to break this down into more than 1 seminar -- e.g. talking to the post-abortive vs. talking about suffering...
+FIXME Still-face experiment footage https://youtu.be/FaiXi8KyzOQ?si=FeiNadftmw0U4HyN -- "what happens to the human person when (s)he experiences a lack of love?" C.f. Stephanie Gray visiting orphaned child. If someone can't see the difference between right and wrong, it may be because //they// have been wronged. If someone's coming from a place that seems initially heartless, it may be because experiences of pain have closed their hearts off.
-https://docs.google.com/document/d/117MOUnSS46vsWYdrrcUZRJP6YWFBixuCODRzsoB8tJ4/edit?usp=sharing
+===== Inspire/impart courage =====
+    - "Who inspires you?"
+      - Those who inspire do the right thing and pursue the good, even when it's hard
+    - "Do you think that if you/your mom/your sister had had more support, you could have carried to term?"
+    - D = S - M
+      - {{youtube>9rYRKZfunJA?medium}}
+    - Diagnosis of a disability or illness
+      - {{youtube>DBL6fSNghDk?medium}}
+      - {{youtube>5wn6GP4BXcY?medium}}
+    - Inspire men to stand up for women and children
+      - [[https://www.torontoagainstabortion.org/2018/10/05/why-do-we-continue-in-the-face-of-violent-opposition/]]
+    - What about suffering and being unwanted?
+      - [[https://www.torontoagainstabortion.org/2018/05/21/adoption-suffering-and-love-reflections-of-a-powerful-conversation-on-a-rainy-day|Testimony: Adoption, Suffering and Love]]
+  * FIXME 2020 notes from Maria McCann: [[https://docs.google.com/document/d/1CE1TTpfbiLJf4fLqTMWk0lVUk-o8jOtKoJjI3GWbgaE/edit?usp=drivesdk|Heart Apologetics MM]]
+  * FIXME 1.5h talk from CCBR (Notes from Oriyana Hrycyshyn 2017): [[https://docs.google.com/document/d/117MOUnSS46vsWYdrrcUZRJP6YWFBixuCODRzsoB8tJ4/edit?usp=sharing|Heart apologetics OH]]
+  * [[http://www.unmaskingchoice.ca/blog/2014/02/04/strong-minds-tender-hearts|Strong Minds, Tender Hearts]]
+FIXME topics=address at least some of the following: overall branching from head to heart; post-abortive women; loved ones of the post-abortive; survivors of sexual assault; women who've had miscarriages; suffering; mental health issues/suicidal ideation
+Resources from Life Perspectives on how to deal with reproductive loss: https://www.lifeperspectives.com/training-tools/